One thing I often hear people struggle with is should they find someone to come into the home and provide care for a loved one, or do they need to move them to an assisted living or another senior facility. It is hard to know what to do because, for many of us, we would prefer to keep mom or dad at home where they are now for a variety of reasons. So one thing I tell people to do is write down the pros and cons of staying in the home and moving to a facility. Then I recommend asking some specific questions.
Are they eating healthy meals regularly or missing some?
Are they shopping for fresh food or letting old food sit in the refrigerator?
Have you noticed any bruises or injuries they don't recall getting?
Are they taking regular showers and brushing their teeth?
Are they cleaning the kitchen dishes and taking the garbage out?
Are they leaving appliances on?
Does the house have grab bars and other adjustments for the elderly?
Do they remember to take medication?
Are they a fall risk?
What are the financial concerns for both of these options?
These are some of the main things to look for. Putting these together with your own prois and cons as far as your own life is concerned and you should be able to see what the best choice is. If your answer is no to some of these, you may want to think about whether or not it is time for more assistance to keep your loved one safe and healthy.